For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man seeth, why doth he yet hope for? But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it. Romans 8:24-25

December 20, 2014 – Advice

Something to remember when you know someone who is grieving is that they don’t always need/want your “advice”… they need your time, compassion and love.  So many times over the past four years when we have talked to people about our feelings, or how we have been treated through our grief process, they have given us their take on things or have played devil’s advocate.  We’re sure that they thought they were being helpful, but it has been incredibly hurtful and often times, to be honest, has just made us angry.  So many people just walked away from us, and many of them probably didn’t know what to do or say, so they just did nothing….but remember, it’s not about having the answers, it’s about being there.

Often, the best thing to say, is nothing, just be there.

 

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